Being a parent is the best, most important job in the world. You’ll never experience love like you will after having a child. Your life becomes meaningful and fulfilling the first time you hold your baby in your arms. You’ll feel a sense of regret and discontent if you don’t have a kid. We’ve heard all the BS Baby Boomers and society spits at us. For some people, these statements are absolutely true. For many, they’re not.
When it comes to parenthood, millennials (and Gen X-ers!) remain ambivalent. In fact, there have been hundreds of think pieces unpacking the many reasons why people don’t want to have kids. Factors range from environmental impact to knowledge of personal habits, from financial worries to workplace discrimination. All future children will contribute to global warming. You may earn less money as a mother or father. You won’t have time to nurture important social connections. Your marriage could suffer. You might not have the bank account to fully support a kid for 18 years.
If you decide that having kids isn’t in your future, that’s okay. Both men and women experience social pressure to start families, but if it doesn’t feel right, it’s probably the wrong choice. I didn’t always know I wanted kids but having them was the right choice for me and my partner. If it’s not the right choice for you, there is no shame in admitting it. In fact, its better to admit and talk about it before making any decisions—the worst possible situation is that you regret having your kid.
That said, I should make a note—if you don’t have kids, you can still be a Psychotic Housewife in this community. This blog was created to chart my personal journey in navigating life as the manager of my home. Maybe you don’t have kids but work full-time and still manage your home’s finances. Maybe your partner doesn’t commit to splitting housework or cooking, meaning you’re the person to take care of the rest. Maybe you live alone and want solid advice on managing your mortgage or eating healthily. No matter your identity or reasons for being here, we welcome you with open arms.